How to deal with criticism and rejection

“There is no limit to the meaning you can give your life”.

• Ve al que te critica como un maestro.
  See the one who criticizes you as a teacher.

• El rechazo no significa que no me quieren, sino que todavía no he encontrado mi tribu y a las personas que me valoran.
  Rejection doesn’t mean that they don’t love me, but that I’ve not yet found my tribe and the people who value me.

Reframing criticism and rejection

Instead of viewing criticism and rejection as a negative experience, reframe it as support and guidance

Four years ago I had problems on my job, I was rejected by my colleagues, and I was fired. After that my confidence went down and I was very sad for months. Finally I found a new job, when my boos and colleagues recognized my skills and I had better performance, now I believe that was a good experience because this helped me to search and find a correct place to work.

If someone criticizes you:

• Don’t turn a deaf ear, listen, learn and improve.
• Don’t take anything personally
• Whatever they say about you, they have it in them.
• You give what you are, every day improve and give the best of you.
• Listen, listen and listen, then act accordingly.

Clase 11 – Cómo lidiar con la crítica y el rechazo

Frases:

• Los límites del lenguaje son los límites de mi mundo

• No hay límite para el significado que puedes darle a tu vida.

¿Cuándo vemos la crítica y el rechazo de manera negativa estamos poniendo límites a nuestra vida?

• Sí.

¿Podemos cambiar los pensamientos negativos que generan el rechazo y la crítica en pensamientos positivos?

• Sí.

¿Cómo podemos transformar los pensamientos negativos que surgen de la crítica y el rechazo en pensamientos positivos?

• Ver estos comentario y situaciones como formas de apoyo y guía para nuestra vida.

¿Qué pregunta podemos hacernos para cambiar los pensamientos negativos que surgen de la crítica y el rechazo en algo positivo?

• ¿Qué acción podría realizar a continuación para mejorar?

Here the phrases from the Activity:

• I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s OK.
• An opinion doesn’t define me.
• I’m the one who gives meaning to the words.
• Rejection is just another opportunity to succeed.

“The limits of my language are the limits of my world” 😄

If your crush tells you that he/she doesn’t want to be with you, it doesn’t mean that nobody wants to be with you, only that he/she is not the indicate to value you as you deserve.

“The limits of my language are the limits of my world”.

Take whatever that has been told to you as feedback, the more wisdom you will get.

hazlo hasta que te convenzas de lo que eres

there are no limits to what you want to achieve in your life that’s right

What others think of me does not define me.

To see the criticism in a positve way, we can focus on what the meant, on the advice, instead of concentrating on how or who said it.

• If someone says that I am not good at something , I can understand that I can improve and do better next time.

• We have to know how to deal with stress and worries.
• Put your criticism and stress down.
• Reframe criticism and rejection.
• Use feedback in a positive way.

I loved this quote: “Rejection doesn’t mean I’m not wanted; it means I’m yet to find my tribe and those who see my value.”

There is an Australian movie called “Danny Deck Chair” where you can see how just finding your tribe can make all the difference. Danny was a driver for a construction site and nobody respected him. He was a joke even to his wife. Thanks to an experiment with huge balloons and a deck chair, he flies away to a small town. There is a misunderstanding and everyone believes he is a college professor. Now he is admired and his ideas are heard. He is the same person, but he is treated differently because he found his place in the world.

• Maybe I wasn’t accepted at my dream University, but it should be a sign that I have to rethink what I want.

La crítica no siempre tiene una connotación negativa, quizas recibas una critica para mejorar algo pero no necesariamente lo hacen para molestar o hacerte sentir mal; demosle contexto al significado o la interpretación de la situación. Pienso que es importante aclarar este punto.

I’m ready for the rejection!

Reframing sentences and affirmations to counter criticism and rejection.

I will consider each of the people who criticize me as a teacher who has something very valuable to teach me.

Experiencing rejection only means that I still haven’t found the tribe to which I belong and that values me unlimitedly.

1. Fixed: I don’t have the skills enough to apply to this job, I will keep searching till I find a Job that I will keep looking until I find a job that has requirements that meet my skills
   1.Growth: Maybe I don’t have 100% of the skills that the Job requires, but if I apply, at least I will be more aware about what skills I lack and if I’m lucky they will give me feed back in the recruitment process
2. Fixed: I’m not good at making new friends and connections, I’m going to look ridiculous if I try
   1. Growth: I may not be good at making new friends, but if I try to talk to those people at least I will gain experience on how to make new connections and socialize